Court Visit (or Revist) after a Barder Event

Court Revisits After a Barder Event in Divorce; Emotional Turmoil

I recently came across an article on Barder Events and felt compelled to write about it.  A Barder Event is rare but what struck me in the article I read was the authors “joy” in having the opportunity to take this case.

Whilst I understand wanting to do a case like this from a professional point of view, it would be helpful if time could be taken to consider the consequences outside the court room. 

What the article doesn’t mention is the emotional toil it takes on the two participants, and that of the children and extending family involved.  In such a case, there will have been a dramatic change of circumstances.  One of the parties may have lost a loved one, a business they have poured their heart and soul into, or similar, and now find themselves being taken to Court (or back to Court) by their ex-spouse. 

These cases can destroy any hope of civil co-parenting relationship going forward, and also the relationship between the parent re-litigating the matter and their children, who will inevitably be aware of the stress and the strain of the proceedings.

Divorce proceedings are emotionally draining experiences, and the hope is that they bring closure to a chapter in one's life. However, in certain cases, unforeseen circumstances can lead to revisits to the courtroom, especially after what is known as a "Barder event”.

My article explores the emotional toll of such revisits and delves into the limited understanding of the emotional damage that these legal proceedings can inflict on the parties involved, and how I can help as a Divorce Coach.

A "Barder Event"

In family law, a "Barder event" refers to a significant change in circumstances that can lead to a reconsideration of the financial aspects of a divorce settlement. Such events might include unexpected financial windfalls, a sharp decline in financial fortunes, or other unforeseen developments that make the original divorce settlement unjust or unworkable. When these situations occur, the affected parties often find themselves in court or back in court, reliving the stress and emotional turmoil associated with divorce proceedings.

Being taken back to court after a "Barder event" can be profoundly distressing. The emotional baggage of divorce, which individuals may have been working hard to overcome, resurfaces, causing heightened anxiety, depression, and even post-traumatic stress. It's sad that legal professionals often underestimate the emotional damage these revisits can inflict, and, in some cases, even encourage them in pursuit of legal fairness. It is crucial to recognize the emotional trauma that legal proceedings can cause and, if possible, seek alternative methods that prioritize the well-being of all parties involved in the divorce process.

As a divorce coach, I have a unique experience of Barder events and have a very deep understanding how to help individuals navigate these emotionally demanding times.

I offer a safe, non-judgemental and confidential space for clients to express their feelings and concerns. I offer empathetic listening, guidance, and validation, helping clients process their emotions and regain their emotional stability.

Revisiting the courtroom can be overwhelming, but I can help clients set clear and realistic goals for the new legal proceedings. This information helps individuals to focus on what truly matters and avoid getting lost in the emotional turmoil. 

Courtroom battles can be incredibly stressful, especially if you believed they were over, and now find yourself facing more.  I offer tools and strategies to keep individuals mentally and emotionally resilient during the process.

Effective communication is key during legal proceedings. I help clients improve their communication skills, ensuring they can express themselves clearly and calmly in court and negotiation settings.

I assist clients in making informed decisions during the court process. I can provide insights, and help individuals consider the long-term consequences of their choices.

Coping with the uncertainty and emotional turmoil of a Barder event will be calmer with me by your side. I can help develop coping strategies to manage the rollercoaster of emotions during the proceedings.

Revisiting court after a "Barder event" in divorce proceedings can take a significant toll on one's mental health. However, with my support, individuals can better navigate the emotional challenges, regain a sense of control, and work towards a fair and just resolution. The emotional support, guidance, and skills I provide make a world of difference in helping you cope with the difficult circumstances that arise from these unexpected legal revisits.